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clive oxford counselling, psychotherapy and supervision in hereford, herefordshire |
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| 6th December 2023 | ||||||||||||||||||
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 PEOPLE COME TO MY PRACTICE AND FIND OUT HOW THEY GOT THERE! In my Counselling and Psychotherapy practice, I work with clients from every walk of life who sense they are at some ‘critical point’ in their lives; perhaps stuck, confused and unsure of the way forward - at a crossroads. Discovering meaning and purpose in these ‘places’ can be transforming and help realise new perspectives and horizons. The continual struggle, when self-esteem is low, can feel overwhelming, and it can often take great courage to ask for help or support. What if your pain were...... not saying no, or, perhaps yes acquiescence when you disagreed perfunctoriness, not love, not kindness guilt for resenting your agreement the contortions of avoidance, of conflict, of fights, of disagreement What if your pain were.... the shoulds, the musts and oughts the lack of courage the cowardice the weakness the guilt for the resented compromise keeping the peace What if your pain were..... anything for an easy life an 'easy come, easy go' an 'oh alright then' you didn't mean the 'blind eye' the 'keeping stum' the lack of honesty not telling the truth the simmering of hurt the sublimation of fear What if your pain were.... the 'leaving the room' the 'going out' the 'early night' the 'too tired' the 'stressed' the fear of loneliness of hurting a loved one What if the pain were... the fear of being seen as a psychopath a narcissist cold, detached, fearful, fearful, tearful what if the pain were disappointment that you're not applauded not acclaimed that you might fail that you might be..... so powerful you'll be too much. but,..... don't worry, thankfully, as Bob Dylan said: "as great as you are man, you'll never be greater than yourself." "the vital criteria of personal integrity is whether you belong to your own life or not" - John O''Donohue The struggle with the everyday questions above might give rise to any number of issues; lack of confidence and self-esteem, relationship difficulties, constant states of anxiety, depression, the stress of maintaining habitual behaviours, panic attacks, eating problems, outbursts of anger and rage, sexual problems, a lack of direction and purpose in life, effects of past trauma, feeling isolated, experiencing loss, chronic fatigue and on and on. Our psychological symptoms are usually related to underlying, unconscious causes. Addressing these causes in therapy, can bring about significant and lasting change. My clients want to: Regain a sense of Balance Identify and make sense of what's going on currently, how they 'ended up here', and use their inner strengths and creative resources to regain balance, control and responsibilty for their lives Reclaim a sense of Integrity Gain insight into, and acceptance of, their unique individuality and difference, developing the confidence to be more of who they truly are Find Purpose and Direction Be able to see their own path more clearly and follow it with commitment and courage CLIENTS have included; artists, bank managers, beauty therapists, photographers, bricklayers, writers, film directors, care home managers, carpenters, CEO's, civil servants, computer programmers, truck drivers, counsellors, drug rehabilitation counsellors, electricians, journalists, entrepreneurs, estate agents, dentists, farmers, students, health and saftey officers, media presenters, language teachers, life coaches, masseurs, media consultants, military and security personnel, musicians, oil rig engineers, osteopaths, police officers, priests, psychologists, psychotherapists, shop assistants, doctors, social workers, teachers, TV & film producers..... in short, all walks of life |
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