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|17th April 2021|
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Alan Watts, The Wisdom of Insecurity
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage
And then is heard no more: it is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing. – Macbeth
He said: I want to be normal again
I said: What’s normal?
He said: Like I was before
I said: What would that have been?
He said: Happy
I said: What makes you think you should be happy?
He said: Because I was.
I said: And now?
He said: I’m not happy.
I said: That’s tough then.
He said: Yeah. It is.
I said: And it shouldn’t be tough?
He said: No. Not this tough.
I said: And it is this tough.
He said: Yes. It is.
I said: Are you sure?
He said: Yes. I am.
I said: Good. Now we know where to start.
The Oxford Dictionary definition of Mental
relating to the mind , mental phenomena , mental faculties done by or occurring in the mind
a quick mental calculation , she made a mental note to ring him later
of or relating to disorders of the mind, a mental hospital
[predic.] informal mad; insane:I think he was a little worried that I might be mental
Origin: late Middle English: from late Latin mentalis, from Latin mens, ment-'mind'
The use of mental in compounds such as mental hospital and mental patient was the normal accepted term in the first half of the 20th century. It is now, however, regarded as old-fashioned, sometimes even offensive, and has been largely replaced by the term psychiatric in both general and official use.
How often have you heard - "well, we all have mental health issues", "I'm worried about my mental health"? What do we really mean when we say this? What are we really trying to identify?
It has become a term so ubiquitous it is now very much part of the zeitgeist. We talk about 'mental health' as if we all understand what that means; a term swallowed whole without being chewed over, digested or appreciated, and this lack of awareness is having serious repercussions for those identified as having a 'mental health' problem or 'disorder'.
In my practice I frequently meet people who have either identified themselves, or been identified, perhaps by a GP, psychiatrist, or indeed a friend, as having a mental health disorder, problem or issue; they have 'depression', 'anxiety', 'bipolar disorder', 'social anxiety disorder', 'obsessive compulsive disorder'. These labels strike fear into most of us because they are de-contextualised from our individual lives, perspectives and stories and identify us as a member of a sub-group and are thus incomprehensible. "How come I've got this (illness)?" The subtext will often be - "I am (mentally) ill" or simply "I am mental", "there must be something wrong with my brain", "I'm mad"etc.
No doubt you will have noticed my italicised emphasis - mental. As you read these words, notice how you react, how the word locates the field of the problem; in the head and probably more specifically in the brain or the mind. The Oxford Dictionary definition above clearly locates this as the field.
My gripe with this is not semantic, far from it, for quite clearly we need our mental faculties; we need our intellect, cognition, and our abilities to conceptualise, perceive, theorise, think etc. However, this is to seriously overlook and ignore the complexities of our lived experience. To locate the problem in the mental field alone is to ignore the significance and impact of our felt world; e.g I feel depressed or I am depressed, I feel anxious or I am anxious, I feel scared or I am scared, - in short, I feel or I am. We don't say, I think scared, I think anxious, I think depressed; it is a felt experience.
Those I have worked with who have been in the 'mental health system', have all experienced a focus on their problem or disorder and not on them as individuals, an experience which can be very invalidating and dismissive, as if the journey they made to the point where they need help is both irrelevant and unimportant; i.e. the problem is the ‘mental health problem/disorder'.
Each of us has a unique story. How can we expect our clients to feel they are being taken seriously if we ignore the experience of their story and its’ impact on how they view life now?
This man (Hans Rosling) sees the world as a human field in which the impossible is always possible but..... watch and listen till the very end!!
A very comprehensive library and archive of Mens psychological and emotional issues - Minnesota Men's Conference
THANK YOU VASILI ARKHIPOV
The decision not to start world war three was not taken in the Kremlin or the White House, but in the sweltering control room of a submarine. The launch of the B-59's nuclear torpedo required the consent of all three senior officers aboard. Arkhipov was alone in refusing permission. It is certain that Arkhipov's reputation was a key factor in the control room debate. The previous year the young officer had exposed himself to severe radiation in order to save a submarine with an overheating reactor. That radiation dose eventually contributed to his death in 1998. So when we raise our glasses on 27 October (anniversary) we can only toast his memory. Thank you, Vasya.
Diploma - Creative Photography 1970 (Derby Coll. Of Art)
Assistant Photographer (Aird Taylor Assoc. Kensington)
Visiting Lecturer (BA Photography) Various Art Colleges
MUSIC, ARTS AND CRAFTS 1977-1981
Projectionist Art-house cinema (Ritzy, Brixton) Recorded music for intermissions
Released record that briefly tops independent music chart. Now collectable!
Numerous attempts to form a contemporary band with many incarnations over this period.
Many hours spent recording and producing; alas fame eludes me!
Designing and making jewellery, printed t-shirts, and photographic postcards.
Raised finance to acquire, redesign & convert dis-used costermongers’ stable in Brixton
into first organic vegetarian restaurant and foodstore in South London
Employed between 10-15 staff
One of the first vegetarian restaurants to move away from the ‘hippie’ image
and introduce creative, exciting healthy food. Also featured popular
themed musical events (Italian Opera, Spanish Flamenco, Jazz etc.)
CLINICAL PSYCHOTHERAPY & COUNSELLING TRAINING1988-93
Trained in Humanistic & Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy
(Bath Centre for Psych & Couns) and Advanced Gestalt Psychotherapy (Gestalt SouthWest)
PRIVATE PRACTICE 1991/date
Private practice in Hereford and Bristol
Founder member Independent Practitioners Network (IPN)
Local and Regional co-ordinator for IPN
Senior Accredited Psychotherapist & Counsellor NCS
GROUPWORK 1994/date (Training, Personal & Spiritual Development)
Listening skills workshops for teachers, social workers, nurses and carers.
Visiting Lecturer Personal Development Facilitator on Counselling Diploma Course (UWE)
Ongoing Practitioner Development Groups for practicing therapists and counsellors
SUPERVISION (Group & Individual) 2000/date
Individual Supervision for Counsellors, Psychotherapists
Group Supervisor to Counselling Staff at Drug & Alcohol Rehab Treatment Centre - Gloucestershire
Group Supervisor - Counselling & Psychotherapy Service in Hereford
Group Supervisor to post-graduate Counselling students at Royal Forest of Dean College.
INTERFAITH MINISTRY 2000/date
Trained at Interfaith Seminary (Oxford) in Spiritual Counselling,
Comparative Theologies 1998 -2000
Ordained - Interfaith Minister - 2000
Ceremonial work. - Weddings, Funerals, and Naming Ceremonies.
Pre - marriage Counselling and spiritual support
Spiritual Awareness and Support group at local day Centre
for people with physical disabilities and terminal illness
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